Redefining Aging

Redefining Aging

In recent years, the stereotypes surrounding aging, particularly for women, have undergone a significant transformation. Not too long ago, reaching the age of 50 often meant a shift into a more reserved lifestyle—one characterized by a decline in socializing, dressing up, and engaging with friends. However, I firmly believe that today, being in your 80s feels like the new 40s, and my recent experience has reaffirmed this perspective.

On the 16th of this month, I attended a gathering that exemplified this exciting shift. The event brought together nearly 35 vibrant women, all in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and beyond. Each of these remarkable ladies belonged to different groups, the host is part of. This spirited host Sudha Gorthy in her 80s is a testament to active aging. This vivacious and elegant lady is associated with five different groups: Vatayan writers' group, a book club, a music ensemble, an exercise group, and a kitty group. Just imagine the energy and enthusiasm she exudes, despite being in her 80s!

As I arrived at the venue, I noticed that several tables were set up, each with four chairs. However, as guests mingled, they began pulling chairs together to form larger semi-circles, fostering a sense of community and connection. The host, alongside her gracious daughter, moved from table to table, engaging with every guest and ensuring that everyone felt valued and included.

After all the guests were settled, the host announced that her music group would perform a song. They beautifully rendered “Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna” which translates to “Never Say Goodbye” in English. Their harmonious voice filled the room, and the heartfelt performance set a tone of joy and togetherness.

Following the song, the atmosphere buzzed with friendly chatter. The lively discussions were momentarily hushed when a member of the kitty group Shenaz stood up to honour the host. She praised her grace, elegance, and charm, indicating how these qualities have remained consistent over the years. In celebration of her spirit, they raised a toast and presented her with a cake adorned with the message “with love from the kitty group.” As the host, Sudha Gorthy cut the cake everyone sang “For she is a jolly good fellow, she is a jolly good fellow, which nobody can deny” This gesture symbolized the warmth and affection the group felt for their dynamic member.

As soon as the host cut the cake, conversations resumed with renewed energy. Some women were catching up on lost time, while others, meeting for the first time, eagerly sharing stories and news. The joyful atmosphere was palpable, filled with laughter, camaraderie, and genuine connections.

Just as the chatter reached a delightful crescendo, there was another announcement! This time, from the host that lunch was ready. She invited everyone to help themselves from the impressive buffet laid out, featuring an array of both vegetarian and non-vegetarian options. The meal was capped off with the cake and additional sweet treats, creating a perfect culinary experience.

After lunch, the energy naturally mellowed, and one by one, guests began to take their leave. It was a fun-filled afternoon, rich with laughter, shared stories, and a sense of belonging. As I reflected on the gathering, I couldn’t help but admire the resilience and zest for life that each woman displayed.

Kudos to our host! Organizing a lunch party for 35 ladies, from five different groups is no small feat, and she managed to do so with such grace and warmth. This gathering was not merely a celebration of food and music; it was a testament to the fact that life continues to blossom at any age, bursting with energy, connection, and joy. Today’s older women are redefining aging, proving that life can be as vibrant as you make it, no matter the age on your birthday cake!!!!!